Should children and grandchildren be with the eldest members of the family? The woman argued with her mother about it. Who is right in this dispute

Should adult children always live close to their parents?

 Should children and grandchildren stick to the eldest members of the family? The woman argued with her mother about this Who is right in this dispute

A recent conversation with my mother made me think about it. I don't think I'm alone in these considerations. We talked about how fast kids are growing up. Yesterday I took my daughter to the first grade, and today I am finishing school. My husband and I are preparing to move out of the house. After all, you have to get used to it, accept it, be able to let go and not worry about trifles & ndash; I said. An interesting life awaits her. Maybe he will live in another city or even in another country …

But my retired mother did not share my beliefs. On the contrary – she said that I was not in my head and said that the place of adult children is with their parents. & ldquo; Maybe not under the same roof, but not far away, not like you and your sister & rdquo; she stated. In an interview she convinced me that if something happened to her, no one would help her. You don't get younger, your health worsens, you have to think about yourself. It is very hard to live. We didn't think about it then, we let you go this far. We are very sorry now. Don't make my mistakes. Don't let her go “- she started to persuade me.

My mother was constantly talking and talking, and I remembered how in 2005, with my husband and daughter, we left almost 2,000 kilometers from our hometown, into the unknown, to look for a new life. Six months later, my sister and her husband also visited us. We lived together, then rented an apartment for several years. Later they bought their own apartment and raised two children. For my daughter and my nephew, the city we once accidentally stumbled upon a map has become a homeland.

What would our life be like if we had not left our family home? I don't know, there was no choice of work then, and there were no prospects either. I worked for PLN 2,300 a month, and when I started working abroad, I got a salary of PLN 18,000 for good morning. It really wasn't much by local standards, but for me this amount was unimaginable. As I was promoted and changed my job, I started to earn more and more, just like my husband. Our salaries grew as well as our desires and opportunities.

After we moved out, we saw our parents 1-2 times a year. You always have to sacrifice something. This is my victim. Today, thinking about this conversation, I doubt that keeping the kids with you is the right thing to do. Of course, we will be better off, but should we only think about ourselves? Maybe first of all you need to think about your daughter, where will it be better for her, where can she arrange her life? And if everything is going to be a thousand kilometers away from me, how can we disturb it? Isn't that too selfish?

I know that both people my age and my parents' age read me. I want to ask, what do you think about this position? Do you have to have adult children with you, try to make them live nearby? Is this how we put obstacles on the way of our children?

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