Wellness: spread your wings

Well-being: spreading your wings

BETTING À DAY

When things go wrong, many tend to think only of the problems, which unfortunately plunges them into a negative spiral. Conversely, those who manage to appreciate what is going well, despite the troubles, do much better. The author, Jean-Guy Arpin, invites everyone to spread their wings to live in a more zen way. Wonder, love and resilience are great assets to achieve this. 

The author, who has been practicing meditation for 40 years, who has studied with the greatest and who founded the Lotus Zen Buddhist dojo, which is inspired by the teachings of Buddha, has a very particular vision of life that we could associated with that of a great sage. 

Author of several books, including Le plus beau jour, c'est parleand Chemins zen, he offers a philosophy of life thanks to many tips, even if some of them seem less close to the reality of ordinary mortals. 

However, if everyone could put into practice even one of his advice, we would come to appreciate our existence better, we could be less angry, happier and less stressed, that is to say a lot more zen.

Among the themes evoked, we count in the first place the suffering on the emotional level. 

Everyone suffers for something, a disappointment, a defeat or some dissatisfaction. It could last a moment or a lifetime, the choice would be up to us. You can also add an instinct for revenge or bitterness to make matters worse. 

In the Buddhist universe, these sufferings are in principle lessons in humility. It would not be useless, it would be a way to push us to understand something or even to give up certain desires by practicing detachment. 

Thus one can choose to suffer all his life or rather to make it so that it lasts only a moment. In theory it is simple, but in practice, we will agree, it is not easy or acquired, especially when we witness wars or natural disasters where there is a feeling of helplessness. 

But little by little we can come to win certain internal battles over which we have control by choosing our own battles in order to return to the essentials.

The wisdom 

To live happily would ultimately be to learn wisdom. A simple word that can take a lifetime to achieve, and even then, some egocentric beings will never succeed. 

Wisdom could be summed up in living with respect, accepting differences, remaining attentive to others, not judging, loving unconditionally, showing compassion and altruism, recognizing one's wrongs, learning to let go- taken and remain in the essential. Added to this is the idea of ​​developing wonder every day so that in the end fullness settles in each of us.

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